Family Feud

This week, I finished reading George, Nicholas and Wilhelm: Three Royal Cousins and the Road to War, by Miranda Carter. (This is the book that was the one that had all appearance of being utterly dull). It was amazing. Book review over.

Alright, fine. I'll go a bit more in depth. I'm not going to go into the details of WWI and history and such, but I do want to give the impressions this book left, that you don't get if you just read the tragically uninsightful history books of K-12. So, if you don't know much about the world at the time, you are going to have to do some background reading.

What really stood out was how dysfunctional the royalty of Europe was during the mid-1800's to the time of WWI. This book is less a look at the historical facts and more a look at the mentalities, the motivations that drove George, Nicholas, Wilhelm, Queen Victoria, King Edward VII, and others. Honestly, if anyone needed Dr. Phil, or Nanny 911, it was the royal family, which was pretty much everyone royal at the time, because they literally were a family. Imagine that family reunion!!! And, based on this book, the family reunions of these guys could trump just about any family reunion you've ever been to. And they make an excellent example of why politics should NOT be discussed at family get-togethers. Really, though, it was fascinating to read about these people as a family first, and government leaders second. And to see how their family relationships impacted politics and affected the entire world.

Another thing that stood out to me was how utterly pointless WWI was. Honestly, it was just someone really anxious to blow things up and shoot guns and prove that they were king of the mountain. There was no other reason for it. It wasn't about anything other than egos. It was about empire, and being the biggest world power. Which, sadly, in some ways hasn't changed much.

As I read, I found it much more difficult to sympathize with Wilhelm, but as I reflect, he probably deserves the most pity. Socially inept, all he wanted was acceptance and respect, but everything he did resulted in exactly the opposite. And yet, because of his lack of social graces, it's very hard to sympathize with him. As things progress, I felt more frustration with Nicholas, as well, and yet, pity, also. He was a good man placed in the wrong place. But the story of Russia before the revolution that overthrew Nicholas gave a lot of insight into the history of Russia after Nicholas, and even up to the present day.

In the end, all you get is a sense of tragedy. There are so many what-ifs. Of course, none of those have guarantees, and there were so many factors at play, but still. Had even one of the many major decisions been made differently, the world could have followed a completely different course.

Anyway, it really was a terrific book, and despite how huge it looked, was far less daunting than it appeared.

Now, a little bonus today, if you would like to call it that. I read an article this week that really gave some excellent perspective to the gun issue. I have read several articles that have reframed the discussion for me. I decided that I would share this one: Living with guns the Swiss way. I think this brings up a lot of relevant points for reading informational literature, which may be the topic next time. But, I hope the article is as insightful for you as it was for me.

Timing

There is a book I have been trying to get into for about a week now, and I have not made any progress. It is a book that sounded interesting, it's become widely known and I've heard other people say it was good, they made a movie out of it--there is absolutely no reason why I should be having such a hard time getting interested. I've made it 10 or 15 pages in, and I can't even say I dislike it, because what I've read isn't bad. It's just not grabbing me. And I don't feel inclined to read it.

On the other hand, there's another book I picked up today and took with me to the gym. And I read a few pages, and didn't want to put it down. It's a history book. It's big. It's a random book I stumbled across in some bizarre 'related item' search on the internet, a book that no one has ever heard of. I checked it out from the library and thought, 'I'm never going to get through all this." It shouts boring. (Well, to most people. It does have a cool history angle that I enjoy, but still). But I'm really enjoying it. And it just makes me laugh.

Pagewise, the two books are actually about the same, if you go by page numbers. But in the first 15 pages of the history book, there was more character, more plot, more action, and more interest than in the other. And I'm sure the other one gets better. It's just not the right time for it.

It's like the first time I tried to read Pride and Prejudice. I got about 50 pages in, and quit. It was so boring!  It was exactly the kind of book I'd have expected to enjoy, but it just wasn't clicking. Fortunately, I picked it up a few years later and finished it, and it is really a terrific book, well-deserving of its reputation. It just wasn't the right time the first time around.

So, we'll see how things go. I'll stick with the history, and maybe when I'm done, I'll be ready for the other. And if not, I'll give it a year or two. Who knows? Maybe in time I'll come to love it.

Quotes

I was reading The Girl Who Fell Beneath Fairyland and Led the Revels There, by Catherynne M. Valente, and I stumbled across a quote that I really liked:

"September expected that destinies, which is how she thought of professions, simply landed upon one like a crown, and ever after no one questioned or fretted over it, being sure of one's own use in the world. it was only that somehow her crown had not yet appeared. She did hope it would hurry up."

I don't know if that is how destinies work, but I sure wish that I knew. Maybe then I could get mine to come along. And lest you worry that this is a spoiler for the whole book, well, it isn't. But you should read the book. The whole time I was reading, I kept thinking, "How did the author come up with this? It is so original and clever!"

And I hope that Ms. (Mrs.?) Valente doesn't mind that I used a quote from her book.

Waiting

My sister recommended Wait: The Art and Science of Delay, by Frank Partnoy, to me. She said it was really good and so I was slightly tempted to buy it when the library didn't have a copy readily available, but then I figured that I would heed the title and wait. But, I finally did get my hands on a copy, and finished it this last week.

I really enjoyed the book. There was a lot of good insight shared and some good research and Partnoy applied his concepts to a wide variety of scenarios that can have practical implications. For example, slow and steady in investing is a wise approach.

One of the chapters I found really interesting was the one on apologies. I thought his point about waiting to apologize to allow the victim time to air their grievances was a good one, but I think he didn't highlight the benefits to the apologizer. In some circumstances, an apology right away can seem insincere because the offender hasn't really had time to realize why they seven owe an apology. In some situations, an immediate apology might signify remorse at getting caught rather than remorse for actions. I also think it was unfortunate that many of his examples were politicians apologizing, because many of those accounts seemed to be more about image than real remorse. But, that might be a bit judgmental on my part.

I also thought the chapter about hourly versus salaried positions was really interesting. I have definitely found myself calculating how many hours something would cost me. It was interesting to see how that can affect us. And there was a great chapter on procrastination and making it work for you. (Which may not have been the best thing to tell an inveterate procrastinator. Or maybe a terrific thing to tell me, if I actually apply it).

Don't think, though, that this is a book about patience. It is really a book about timing and utilizing all the time available, instead of rushing things. Which is really different from patience, in my ever-so-expert experience (ha ha). It is definitely worth reading.